Grasping that you have been sexually assaulted can trigger a slew of emotions: guilt, fear, shame, and confusion are all common feelings following the heartbreaking trauma of sexual assault.
Regardless of how you feel, there is one thing you can be sure of: it wasn’t your fault.
With its deeply personal nature, there are few crimes that devastate a survivor like sexual assault. More than a trespass on the body, sexual abuse violates the mental, emotional, and psychological capacities of a person.
It evokes powerful emotions that not many are willing or able to talk about openly. It is common for survivors of sexual abuse to withhold from sharing about their experience out of fear, shame, and even guilt.
But there is hope.
At Pride Law Firm, we believe you – and it’s not your fault. Whether you have discovered this page from the anonymity of your smartphone, are a parent pursuing legal action on behalf of your child, or are an adult who has courageously decided to come forward about what happened to you as a child, we are with you.
As difficult as this time can be, we assure you that you are not alone and we are here to help you.
As defined, sexual assault is an act in which a person is coerced or physically forced to engage against their will sexually. It is also defined as non-consensual touching of a person. Sexual assault is an umbrella term that covers a wide range of unwanted sexual acts. An assailant could be a complete stranger or even the survivor’s best friend. When an assault is committed by a close friend or relative of the survivor as it so often is, it can leave the survivor confused; was a boundary crossed? Did the perpetrator mean it as an act of “love?” Were you somehow to blame for it?
In the shock and blur following an assault, it can sometimes be difficult to discern what happened.
It was sexual assault if:
It can still be sexual assault if you:
Unfortunately, it is common for both assailants and survivors to try and justify non-consensual sex. However, there is no grey area when it comes to sexual assault: regardless of your gender, relationship to the attacker, how much you had to drink, sexual history or what you were wearing at the time, if the act was unwanted or out of your control, it was assault.
Under most state laws, consensual sexual activity requires “positive cooperation” by partners. A person who is intoxicated due to alcohol or drugs cannot legally consent to sexual contact, nor can someone who is developmentally disabled.
There is no well-founded reason for sexual abuse, and blaming yourself may feel natural but is not the answer. If you are struggling with self-blame, please speak with a professional counselor or advocate for sexual assault survivors. An ideal resource for this is the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN) or our on-staff Survivor Advocate will also be able to connect you with the care and support you need during this time.
If you were sexually assaulted in any of the situations above, you should see a doctor right away. It is also in your best interest to contact an assault attorney as soon as possible following the assault, even if you’re not sure you want to pursue legal action. Your attorney can help you understand your rights and will provide valuable guidance.
If you’re having trouble sorting through your feelings and aren’t sure if you’ve been assaulted, call the Center for Community Solutions at (888) 385-4657. A compassionate staff member is available 24 hours a day to help you process and determine what steps to take next. Your call is confidential.
Regardless of whether your attacker is ever charged with a crime, Jessica Pride can help you get justice through the civil court system. Whether it’s the perpetrator, the institution that employed him or her, or any other entity that bears responsibility, Jessica will fight to get you the justice you deserve.
Even if you’re not sure if you want to file a claim, we can answer any questions you have and help you understand your options for moving forward. You may reach our offices at (619) 514-2968 anytime, or contact us using the form provided below and we will respond to your message within a 24-hour time period. The first step is reaching out.
Learn how Jessica has helped empower hundreds of sexual assault survivors in the video below.
To find out how Jessica can help you find your voice again, contact us at (619) 292-0350. Even if you just need someone to confide in, every conversation with Jessica is protected by an attorney/client privilege that ensures anything and everything discussed remains between you and Jessica.
If your close friend or family member, son or daughter has been acting out of character lately, it could be an indication of sexual assault. Because survivors often feel enormous shame by the assault, it is common for them to become withdrawn, quiet, irritable and anti-social. They may avoid interactions in an effort to keep the assault to themselves.
If you are concerned about a loved one, get to know the common warning signs among sexual assault survivors. After such a trauma, the survivor will often show both inward and outward signs of pain and trouble.
It is also common for survivors to experience a degree of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Symptoms of PTSD may include:
A survivor may even lose a sense of motivation to care for themselves (such as with personal grooming habits), be terminated from work, expelled from school, fall behind on bills or turn to alcohol and/or drugs to cope with their pain. These are more obvious signs of inner turmoil and should be taken with concern.
Because of the trauma, sexual assault survivors may have trouble remembering details of the event and recount it vaguely. In other cases where coercion is involved, an assaulter may use tactics of deception, blaming the survivor and even gaslighting in order to make her disbelieve the event even happened.
If you believe your loved one is dealing with the devastation of sexual assault, reach out to them. Assure them they are not alone and when they’re ready, help them get in touch with a trusted attorney like Jessica Pride. You could play a critical role in helping them get the assistance they need.
We understand that processing through the event can be difficult, and we will provide a safe, private and supportive environment for them to do that. Any information you have related to the incident is vital and will help the attorney act immediately to contact the proper authorities, using all information to build a strong case on your behalf.
Sexual assault perpetrators must be brought to justice. This includes being held legally and financially responsible – and we will assure they are. The person who violated you, an individual who enabled the attack or any institution whose negligence allowed for the assault may all be held liable for the attack.
In addition to those directly involved in the assault, other parties can also be culpable for their participation or oversight associated with the incident in a court of law. This can include but is not limited to:
Your life does not have to center around the horrible act that occurred to you. You can heal and go on to live a happy and healthy life after sexual assault. You should report your sexual assault to law enforcement immediately, and Jessica Pride can help you get justice through the civil courts.
A study by RAINN reveals that every 98 seconds, someone is sexually assaulted. Of the reported incidents each year, there are still more than 50% of sexual assaults that are not reported.
Just as disturbing is the fact that most attacks are committed by someone known by the survivor – 73% to be exact, while four in ten assaults occur at the survivor’s home.
Youth and women comprise the majority of sexual assault survivors: 44% are below the age of 18, and 80% are under 30. One in six women has been the survivor of a rape or attempted rape, while 1 in 33 American men has been a survivor of rape or attempted rape.
Shockingly, just 3% of rapes result in a criminal conviction.
Many sexual assault sufferers are attacked while incapacitated or under the care of an individual or institution.
Sexual assault is commonly reported in:
What were survivors doing at the time of the incident?
It’s common for survivors of sexual abuse to feel isolated and alone. These troubling numbers are proof that you are not, yet you are also not another number. Your story matters, and you can find your voice again.
We have helped survivors find closure through justice, and we can be your advocates as well.
Jessica Pride understands the hardships associated with sexual assault and is a zealous advocate, unmatched in her dedication to empowering people after the tragedy of sexual assault.
Sexual assault should not define you, and Jessica will do her best to ensure it doesn’t. Contact Jessica Pride, she will help you hold your attacker and all other responsible parties accountable in civil court.
You are more than what happened to you. Someone else’s wrong actions do not define you as a person. Perpetrators often commit heinous crimes as a means of gaining control, but you don’t have to remain a survivor of their violation.
You have tremendous power within you to grow past this painful experience; we will help you find it again. At Pride Law Firm, we have helped countless other people just like you regain the dignity and control they feel they lost by sexual assault. Your healing will not only be life-changing for yourself, but could also help someone else.
Empathetic and passionate, Jessica has based her practice on the protection and restoration of her clients, who almost always become her personal friends.
Focusing only on sexual assault cases, Jessica understands the pain you are going through and has helped facilitate hope and healing for countless others like you. From your first consultation to the last phone call, Jessica will be by your side and fight tirelessly for your best interest.